Our dogs are pack animals. Theyre highly sociable creatures
with a genuine need to socialize and interact. Because we humans have done such
a bang-up job in domesticating our canine friends, socialization with other
dogs isnt enough for your friend: you are the center of your dogs
world. She needs to spend time with you.
Of course, this is
sometimes easier said than done. Life, for most of us, is pretty busy, and at
times its difficult to find genuine pleasure in performing the most basic
of caretaking tasks for our dogs. When time is short, responsibility becomes a
burden.
Its even worse when added responsibilities or increased
demands on our time begin to detract from the quality of the time we do
spend with our dogs. If other stresses are weighing heavily on your mind,
everyday pleasures with your dog can morph from a joy into a headache
the half-hour walk after work is just one more thing to get through, rather
than an opportunity for you both to unwind and spend some time together in
mutual, tacit admiration of the natural world.
Whether we like it or not, the lifestyles that we choose (to a
certain extent, anyway) to put ourselves through a general dearth of
time, moderate to high stress levels, job anxiety, shifting personal
commitments affect our dogs as well as ourselves. Sensitive pooches can
become so negatively impacted by the less-than-positive frame of mind held by
their owners that they themselves become depressed and anxious. Other, more
well-adjusted dogs suffer through isolation: when obligations are pressing, the
twice-daily dog walk can be the easiest thing to relegate to the back of the
line (your dog can hardly raise his voice in outrage, can he?).
Making
time for our dogs isnt always as easy as we would like it to be. But it
doesnt have to require a huge input of time or a Herculean amount of
energy: there are ways that we can include our dogs in our lives without
spending minutes and hours that we dont have.
Here are a few
suggestions:
Bring her along with you. When youre running errands
picking up the mail, dropping children off to music lessons, soccer, and
Little League, stopping by at work your dog will jump at the chance to
come along. Even if she stays in the car, the opportunity to get out of the
house and enjoy a change of visual and olfactory scenery will be genuinely
welcomed by her and its a good way for the two of you to spend
some casual one-on-one time together. If your errands involve other people
(ferrying kids around, picking up a spouse, visiting a friend), accompanying
you can go a long way towards meeting her social requirements for the day, too.
(Tip: if youre going for the Big Grocery Shop, or plan on doing something
else that requires an extended absence from the car, best to leave her at home
any more than half an hour alone in the car is pushing the boundaries of
responsible ownership for most dogs.)
Invite her into the bedroom. You dont have to ask her
up on the bed with you; she can sleep on her own dog bed, either in the corner
of the room (most dogs prefer to sleep with something at their backs) or next
to your bed. This is a fantastic way of spending down-time with
your dog (youre both enjoying the same pastime in an undemanding way),
and of increasing your bond, too. Dogs like to sleep with their pack
(thats you!). As pack animals, theyre hardwired to enjoy close
contact with others during their most vulnerable hours. It reinforces their
sense of togetherness and security. By allowing your dog into your bedroom at
night, youre fostering closeness with your friend. And its easy,
too!
Spend time in mutually-enjoyable activities. Walking the dog
becomes a chore when its boring if youre enjoying yourself,
youll be more likely to devote more time to it, which is good news for
your dog, yourself, and your relationship with each other. Dont feel like
you have to limit yourself to the same old twenty-minute circuit round the park
break out and explore new territory. As much as dogs love to
reinvestigate familiar turf, they appreciate new sights and sounds too, so try
the riverbank, the dog beach, a different park, dog exercise yards (you get to
chat with other owners, too, while your dog makes new friends), hill trails, or
go for a walk downtown with your friend on a leash, of course.
Perfect the art of multi-tasking. Whenever Im cooking
dinner or reading a book, my Rottweiler plumps himself down about two feet away
from my ankles and stares at me dolefully from under wrinkled, upslanted brows.
This used to bother me: I could almost sense the waves of silent
accusation wafting off him. Why arent you playing with
me? I felt like he was asking. How come whatever that is
gets your attention when I dont? As much as I love him, I still
feel that Im entitled to my one or two chapters a night (and a
well-cooked dinner); so I decided to counteract the tear-jerking expression on
his face by learning to multi-task. So now, cooking time is also training time:
I use the momentary hiatus in between stirrings and choppings to practice Sit
and Down. Reading time has become read-and-cuddle time: we sprawl on the couch
together, I get to relax and read my book, and he gets his tummy rubbed while
he snoozes. If I had a TV, Id use my TV-watching time for grooming time,
too.
Counteract the one-man dog tendency. If you live
in a multi-person household, it makes things easier on you if you can share the
responsibility around a bit. Its healthier for your dog, too the
more she interacts with the people that she lives with, the better. You can
share responsibilities like walking, playtime, feeding, and grooming: the more
social stimulation your dog gets, the happier shell be. If you have
children in the household, the amount of responsibility they get is really best
decided on a case-by-case basis: some younger children are perfectly OK to walk
the dog, but some can find the experience traumatic and scary (which makes it
unsafe for the dog, too). As a general rule of thumb, before allowing a child
out of doors and unsupervised with a dog, make sure youre OK with how the
dog and the child interact. The dog should obviously know that the child
ranks above her in the social hierarchy of the household, and obey
her commands reliably; the child should be able to handle herself confidently
with the dog, and know the basic rules of dog-walking etiquette (leash-laws,
poop-scooping, dog-on-dog social protocol, and so on).
Obviously, these tips arent intended as a substitute for
that quality and quantity of time together that your dog lives for and
that makes life as a dog-owner so rewarding and fun, too. Your dog still needs
to spend active, focused time with you, in training, playtime, general
cuddling/manhandling, and exercise. But with a little forethought and effort,
you can go a long way towards ensuring her emotional and psychological welfare
without adding too much to your own workload.
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